To The Girl Who Tries Too Hard

There’s a different between wearing fake lashes because you’re extra and wearing fake lashes because you are trying to cover what you don’t have.

There’s a difference between wearing high-waisted jeans because you like the fit and wearing them to cover your muffin top.

There’s a difference between a genuine smile and a fake moment of happiness.

Today, i’m dedicating my post to all the girls who try too hard. Because I am one of you.

I spend a lot of time looking in the mirror, analyzing myself. I know where every zit, every mole and where every freckle sits on my skin. I wear a lot of high-waisted jeans because I have a muffin top. I wear false lashes because I feel like my lashes aren’t long enough. I wear make-up to cover my acne. I wear sweatshirts to cover my stomach.

Long story short, i’m insecure. Many of us are. I’m not saying doing all of this is wrong. Not at all. It’s the reason behind it that makes it tough. I should wear high-waisted jeans because they help me feel confident. I should wear false lashes because i’m just extra. I should wear make-up to add to my beauty, not take it away. And sweatshirts are comfortable.

It seems simple, but I am an insecure woman with a need to please. I care way too much about what other people think. I step outside and I think about what they neighbors think about my hair. I walk into the grocery store and worry about what the middle aged religious women are thinking about my double piercings. I literally am the overly considerate idiot who cares what other cars think about my driving on the freeway. Like no girl, you do you.

WHO THE F CARES. This year, i’m caring about me. I’m caring about my happiness, my health and my well-being. I try way too hard to impress people who don’t matter, who don’t care and often don’t deserve my freaking amazing self.

Care about people, be considerate of others and their feelings. But do NOT forget about yourself. YOU are important. YOU need to be considered and YOUR feelings are valid. Learning to love yourself will open so many doors and provide so many opportunities. Make sure you are happy with yourself before trying to please others.

Stop trying so hard to be someone you are not and learn to embrace your individuality and your own uniqueness. (This is my advice to myself.)

Continue to better yourself and learn to love who you are and who you can become. We always set new resolutions at the beginning of the year, but if there is one you choose to stick with, I hope it’s to remember every day that you are an amazing individual. There is no one else like you and that’s okay.

Keep up with the glam, wear whatever you want, but make sure it’s for YOU and not for anyone else.

 

Love you guys. Here’s to a New Year.

xoxo Ki

Finding Motivation On A Monday

We all feel it. We all know it. Monday’s are hard. They are intimidating. How often do you start your weekly planning on Sunday, feeling prepared, and then wake up Monday morning feeling a little less motivated? THIS IS ME EVERY MONDAY. So how do we combat the Monday blues? Here are a few things i’m trying this week:

  1. I planned a yummy breakfast. This might seem mediocre, but for a girl who adores food, it definitely pushed me a little bit this morning. I had a mango, some strawberry Chobani yogurt, and two egg whites! The breakfast gave me something to look forward to. I’ll be planning at least the rest of my breakfast’s this week to make sure I keep waking up on time!
  2. I set my alarm tone to a Justin Bieber song hahah. I won’t tell you what song, so you can refrain from judging me. This was to get rid of those annoying alarm sounds that I absolutely dread. And it worked. I still struggle to get up in the mornings (I love my sleep) but this helped me make progress. I liked the sound I was waking up to. Try to set your alarm to something fun and upbeat. Don’t take it from me. Try it for yourself.
  3. Going to bed early. I SUCK at this. Not just struggle, I am awful at it. Working in a restaurant, the hours are hard. The earliest shift ends at 8:00 P.M. I know, plenty of time to get to bed right? Wrong. I typically grocery shop, watch Netflix, or try to go out with friends. These aren’t bad things at all. It’s just when I could do most things before work, I don’t. I’m a night owl, so I’m trying to make an effort to go to bed on time and wake up earlier to make the most of my day.
  4. Live your best life. Making plans to have an awesome week is something to look forward to. Yes, plan out what you have to do this week but also make some plans of what you want to do. Do something new or spontaneous this week. Try something different. You can’t build new habits by doing the same mundane things every day.
  5. Remember you have people rooting for you. You are not alone in this venture. We are not alone! Keep positive, motivating people in your life. And I know I sound cliche, but don’t give up. Keep working on building those healthy habits. It’ll be hard, it’ll take time, but it’ll be so worth it.

What gives you motivation? What helps you have an awesome week? What pushes you to be a better you? I wanna know!