Do you feel that? That is the feeling of relief and a whole new version of stress at the same time. This feeling is also known as: The New Year. A time where we move forward in too many directions. Does anyone else feel that way?
Every time January hits, I think about all the things I want to do. All the things I want to accomplish and the person I want to become. This isn’t bad, right? Right. The struggle comes from the quantity. We start our year with a list of New Year RESOLUTIONS. That word is plural and the list is usually long. We think of all we did wrong or could have done better last year. We think about all the things we are not, and we think about all the Instagram moms we want to be like. Do you think you are going to heal a year of possible mediocrity and regret in ONE MONTH? No. You’re not.
A lot of us spend our New Year looking back at the past and thinking, “I could have done better.” We always think that. I could have eaten less slices of pizza, I could have jumped on the treadmill a few more times, etc.” When have you taken the time to look back at your “wins”? Have you thought about what you accomplished? Hey, you made it to the New Year, that’s an accomplishment. “I didn’t kill my kid when he dropped the 3rd glass of milk in a row”,“I showered almost every day”, “I only burned dinner once this year”. It’s the little things. It’s the little mountains and hills we climb. That’s how we make it through!
I’m all for positive thinking though, don’t get me wrong. I’m an even bigger fan of lists. I love the organization and the feeling you get when you check something off. But we have too many plans. We have too many ideas of what we should look like, what we should eat like and how often we should exercise. The only issue is we have never eaten like that. We haven’t exercised like that and we are trying to check off everything all at once. Take it one day at a time. Or even a week at a time! Today, I won’t drink soda (I might not be able to give this one up). This week I’m going to the gym 3 times. That way we can avoid overwhelming ourselves with so many things we might now even do!
I’m guilty. I look at my week and this is my list:
Solve world hunger
Make people like Nickleback
Don’t glare at a human at least 3 out of 7 days
Try to say Red Robin without following with “YUMM”
LOSE 12 POUNDS.
After that, I usually get too stressed out, I eat ice cream and maybe cry a little bit while watching Netflix. It’s not productive. It takes 21 days to build a habit. It’ll be a little bit of a challenge if you are trying to build 21 habits in 21 days. Am I making sense?
My point is: you are ready. A New Year seems like a new chance to make it right. Guess what? Tomorrow is a new day. Don’t wait for the New Year to restart. Try again tomorrow and the next day and the next. The opportunity is yours and it will be there. Seize each and every day. By all means, become whoever you want to be. I’m here for it. But don’t lose yourself in the process.
You are strong, beautiful and brave. I love the hope that the New Year brings. Just remember to keep the hope. Don’t forget that you will make it. You are the change this world needs and no one is holding you back but yourself. Set goals. Set REALISTIC goals. Hell, set unrealistic goals too. We can dream, can’t we? Just don’t overwhelm yourself before you even begin. That’s all i’m saying.
Happy New Year Everyone. Xoxo Ki