It’s been way too long since I’ve posted anything!! I am sooo ready to write but life has been crazy. I seem to get my ideas while I’m laying sick in bed.
I turned 21 this week. That was weird. Birthdays are a funny thing. I received a lot of super sweet texts, Facebook messages, posts, etc. I have a lot of great people in my life and I’m so so blessed.
But I couldn’t help but think. Friendship is weird. And friendship changes as we grow and change.
What makes someone a friend? What is a great friendship? Does anyone really know? Over the last couple weeks, I’ve been asking myself these questions.
One of my biggest pet peeves, is the fact that people think friendships end after you get married. Here’s the deal. That’s wrong. Of course things change. I am devoted to my husband and he comes first 100% of the time. But I have a strong belief that friendships need to be upheld, respected, and nourished.
When I was in high school, I thought I needed to be accepted and loved by everyone. I thought having the most friends made you the best. How wrong was I? Oh so wrong. Trying to keep up with that many people brings such an empty feeling. Especially when you don’t get that love in return.
There are people from high school that I don’t have the luxury of seeing every single day, but they hold such a sweet place in my heart. I adore sweet texts, messages, comments, calls. But we grow up. Lives change and paths cross less and less. But those people were all so important in my life. They all played vital roles in my growth and success in that point in my life. Some have made it through those changes and I still see often. I’m actually so grateful for social media so I can see their lives and the fun things that are happening.
Other people have appeared later in life, whether it’s work or college. Will they be around next year? In 5 years? I hope so. But you never know. I’ve been in toxic friendships, I’ve been in some really great friendships. Striving to be with those who push you to be a better you and accept you for who you are… GUYS. This is so important.
A lot of people don’t realize how much work it is to keep a friend. It’s actually pretty exhausting. So how do you keep a friend? From my experience, there’s a few things:
1. Honesty. No one likes a two faced friend. Being honest, breaking down walls, and being real keeps things smooth and open.
2. Showing you care. People show love in different ways. Whether it’s sending a text, calling them up, providing help whether it’s financially, physically, mentally, dropping by with a fav treat, supporting their hobbies and dreams, etc.
3. Being consistent. This is so important. Being consistent means being a friend all the time. Not just when it’s convenient.
4. Let them know they are welcome. If you’re anything like me, going out is hard sometimes, but it makes my heart happy knowing I’m always invited.
Our human relationships are so interesting, exhausting and rewarding. Just like anything else, you get out of it what you put into it. And I so believe that.
This is kind of a weird and random rant but thinking about the friends in your life is important. Filter out the toxic people and surround yourself with those people who support and love you no matter what.
I cherish my friendships, past and present. And I love the people who support me.
Thank you for listening!